Words: Tasha Devine
Website: It’s a Devine Life
Making New Year’s Resolutions is fun! In the excitement of a new year, so many of us revel in the chance for a new beginning and make plans for ways to improve certain areas of our life. But often times we only make it to the end of January – sometimes February before falling back into old habits and routines. So why does it happen that year after year we make plans to change only to end up disappointed because we’ve failed? How do we fix it? How do we stick to our goals so that we come out a winner?
A lot of it isn’t about the lack of motivation or decrease in momentum – but the fault lies within the goal itself. We make goals based on a result or what we think would be good for us. “I want to eat better.” – “I want to workout more.” – “I want to lose 20lbs.” These are common examples of New Year’s goals and they’re all great! But are they right for you? You’re making these goals based on what your mind is telling you – that you would be happier if you were more fit, or had more money – but maybe you body or soul just isn’t up for that. So it’s not that you’re failing your goals – but more that the goal has failed you.
The mind, body, and soul are all connected and work closely together. This means that when there’s a disconnect in on area, more often than not, the other areas will falter as well. Think about when you have a cold or flu – the body is sick but your mind can’t focus and isn’t functioning at its peak because it’s distracted by the illness. If you practice meditation you may find it harder to connect to yourself when you’re sick as well.
So what does this mean for our goal setting? We need to change how we create our goals. Instead of letting our mind do all the work and making resolutions for things we think we want, we need to connect to our goals on an emotional level. It’s been proven that having an emotional connection will keep you accountable and more likely to follow through. To do this we need to decide how we want to feel. Come up with a few words, write freely and don’t think about it too much until you have a bunch written down. Start to narrow that down to a few feelings and keep them close – see how they sit with you as a whole. Are they comfortable? Do they encapsulate the right emotions? Are you connected to them? If not then change it up and try again. Once you’ve decided how you want to feel – then start making plans for what you need to do to feel that way. Danielle Laporte says, “Knowing how you want to feel is the most potent form of clarity that you can have. And doing what it takes to generate those feelings is the most powerfully creative thing you can do with your life.” (http://www.daniellelaporte.com/shop/desire-map-softcover-book-bonus/)
Being connected to your goals on an emotional level will keep you accountable and you’ll be more likely to follow through. Pouring positive energy into your daily life will help remove some of the subconscious fears that could be holding you back. Think about how amazing it will feel when you start creating goals for the following year after crossing off all your accomplishments from the year before. Think about it and truly believe that it can happen – It’s so inspiring! Incorporating emotion and connection into your daily life will spark changes that you won’t believe!