Before Efflorescence, I had a blog called Skylines that I used to promote my opinions, ideas, and thoughts above the world. It was philosophical and filled with rambling, and unfortunately, this blog post is going to be pretty similar to one of that calibre. I don’t say ‘unfortunately’ for me, I say it for you. Not everyone is interested in reading something with a bit of weight – I’m not fully interested in reading or writing that all of the time either, but I think every now and then, there is value in sharing a little bit behind the person posting to this site.
Something that frustrates me: how really effing annoying it is to live in a ‘man’s world’, a world which many men will argue is a ‘women’s world’ where women hold all of the power. To be honest, I don’t want to live in either. I don’t believe in or condone living in either. I don’t want to be a woman living in a man’s world, and I don’t want to be a woman living in a women’s world. All I want is to succeed at being a person living in this world.
I think there are boundaries that are set for us from birth. I think there are boundaries that we set for ourselves because of the boundaries society has set for us and that we set for each other. Frankly, I don’t care what you, your brother, or your dog thinks about this opinion, because guess what? My page. If you disagree or have an opinion to share – share it on your own. That’s not to say I don’t respect the opinions of others. I do. But I know myself well enough to also tell you that I will never agree with the opinion of someone else. When I form an opinion, it is a solid, unwavering opinion, which is why I’m careful in forming said opinions in the first place. That being said, people don’t often view the world as ‘the world’. They do view it as one belonging to one sex or the other, where one gender has more power over the other, etc. This could be true. In fact, many would argue that this is true. That we are a patriarchal society where men hold the power and women are objectified and often viewed as though we are here at a man’s disposal.
I am a big believer that people choose whether they are victims or victors. Through my time spent as a model, I was subjected to a variety of situations that would suggest the former idea to be accurate. That doesn’t mean, however, that I believe women do not hurt men or treat them poorly. I know they do. I have seen them do it. I say ‘they’ and ‘them’ instead of an all-encompassing ‘We’ or ‘Us’ because, as with men, I believe the ones who do feel inclined or entitled to belittle or degrade another person, of the opposite sex or otherwise, falls into a category that does not fall into the categories of ‘Men’ or ‘Women’. Because, lets face it, not all men treat women unfairly, and not all women treat men unfairly. This shouldn’t be Men VS. Women, this should be Men & Women VS. Them. We should have each other’s backs in every situation that demands it. Instead of making this a ‘men’s’ or ‘women’s’ issue, it needs to be a ‘men and women’s’ battle. A battle against the select few ‘them’ who make it difficult for both men and women to be respected and provided with the same opportunities as one another.
I challenge the notion of this being a ‘men’s’ or ‘women’s’ problem. Working together instead of against each other has proven to be more productive and effective, and frankly, the people we are working against are often not the ones who need to be challenged. They should be our allies. Sure. You can say that this is the thinking of an idealist who believes everyone should hold hands and sing together while fighting the big, bad wolf. Maybe that’s exactly what it is. But I don’t think anyone would disagree that our environments would be a lot more healthy and strong if we stood up for each other, instead of standing up against each other, while the often cowardly-enemy hides behind a bush and admires his work.
Speaking of big bad wolves.. Read this article. If you agree after reading, that not all men (or women) behave like those in the article, then I rest my case.